But, spoiled rotten, diva-like or not, having spent a good part of my life on the other side of the fence (hardly ever getting anything I wanted,) I highly recommend the alternative and, today, I want to share with you one of the best secrets I know for shifting your life into “get what you want” mode, pronto.

Focus More on WHAT and Less on HOW – When my husband and I met, we knew within days that we would someday get married. Three years later, it still hadn’t happened – but it was not for a lack of trying. It was simply that, in the process of planning around everyone and everything else, we lost sight of what WE wanted.  We spent hours, days, and months trying to map out and coordinate everything. How would we include the kids in the ceremony? Where did our friends fit in? Who would give me away? Where would we have the party afterward?

Dearly Beloved - When it became clear that we would never be able to oblige everyone, we threw in the towel and decided on a private ceremony for two. From that moment on, in what seemed like an almost magical sequence of events, everything began to fall into perfect order. A few weeks later we were married in an elegant ceremony, held in an intimate chapel, aboard a beautiful ship, with our original list of family and friends in attendance, white gown, champagne toast and all.  In other words, the minute we let go of all the nitty-gritty details of how and focused all of our attention on what we wanted, everything happened beautifully and effortlessly.

The Power of Desire - Now, I am not implying, of course, that planning isn’t an important element of getting what you want, but when you find yourself longing for something that is slow to arrive or it feels as though it will never happen, it might be a good idea to examine where you are placing the majority of your attention.  Is your main focus on the vision of what you want and how amazing it will feel when it is finally yours, or is your mind constantly aimed at all of the ”Point-A-To-Point-B” mechanics of getting there? As counter intuitive as it might seem, shifting your focus off “how” and placing it squarely on “what” you want has a powerful way of putting you on the expressway to your heart’s desire.

If there is something you really want, but it seems to be taking forever to show up in your life, try taking about 10 minutes a day to sit quietly by yourself, without any distractions, and imagine the moment you are waiting for. Feel the excitement of getting what you want, imagine what it looks like, sounds like, smells like, and tastes like. Try your best to avoid any resistant thoughts of “but this has to happen first… then this… then this…” Try, instead, to simply experience the joy of that moment- as though you are merely recalling a wonderful memory that has already occurred.  Get back to what you want, forget about how it will arrive (if only for awhile,) and you will be amazed at how quickly it will arrive.

About the Author:

Dianne Orwig is a life coach, motivational speaker, personal trainer, and founder of LivingFit Online™, a program that has helped thousands of men and women completely transform their bodies, and live happier, healthier, more purpose-driven lives though her pioneering, real-world approach to fitness. Visit www.lovelivingfit.com for more details

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Life can be magical when you have a clear set of personal rules to live by.  Here are my top 10 picks for living a happy, abundant life. (I hope they inspire you to create your own set of rules for living life to its fullest.)

Life Rule #1: Look For What Pleases You Rather Than What Annoys You
Whether it’s your partner, your brother, your pet, your home or work, try placing the majority of your attention on the things you really love and appreciate, rather than looking for the things you find tiresome or irritating.

Life Rule #2: Have a Life That is You Own
Try, as much as possible, to live a life that is not tethered too tightly to the actions and opinions of others. As often and as much as  possible, do what you love and love what you do.

Life Rule#3: Appreciate Where You Are Right Now
As you work your way toward your ultimate goals and dreams, make an intentional effort to recognize that where you stand in the present moment is as much a gift as where you are going. Every day, look for at least one thing about your life RIGHT NOW that satisfies you.

Life Rule #4: Have Some Fun
Laugh, dance, do something silly. Watch a funny movie, go for a swim, have lobster for dinner. Whatever you consider fun, pick something, and Just Do It.

Life Rule #5: Say What You Need to Say
Don’t hold back…if you want to say, “I love you,” say it. If you need to say, “You hurt me,” say that too.

Life Rule #6: Surround Yourself With People You Love
Make a list of the people who make you feel safe, inspired, happy, and motivated. Keep them close and let them know, on a regular basis, how much they mean to you.

Life Rule #7: Forget About The Money (If just for a little while)
Sure, money makes the world go ‘round, BUT if everything you do is monetarily based, (trying either to save money or make more) you’re destined to miss a lot of life on the way to your “riches.” Make a habit of doing at least one thing every day that doesn’t cost you a penny or make you a dime, but that makes you happy as can be.

Life Rule #8: Be Okay With Whatever Happens
Contrary to popular belief, life is not about struggle, conflict and endurance. Often, simply deciding that you will look the other way, turn the other cheek, or smile and say “no problem,” can spell the difference between misery and happiness. It’s always your choice.

Life Rule #9:  Do a DRAK (Daily Random Act of Kindness)
Hold the elevator, wave the other car in, in fact, let two in, pay the next guy’s toll, tell someone they smell really good. Find someone to thank, to compliment, to appreciate, and do it.

Life Rule#10: Take Care of The Vehicle You’ve Been Given
In a world where most of our time is spent fulfilling the needs of others – our boss, our children, a troubled friend, our significant other – it’s important to remember that it’s our physical bodies that get us from point “A” to point “B.”  Without it, it’s impossible to take care of anything or anyone else. Make self-care a top priority.

About the Author:

Dianne Orwig is a success coach, motivational speaker, personal trainer, and founder of LivingFit Online™, a program that has helped thousands of men and women completely transform their bodies, and live happier, healthier, more purpose-driven lives though her pioneering, real-world approach to fitness. Visit www.lovelivingfit.com for more details

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I carry your heart with me
I carry it in my heart
I am never without it
Anywhere I go you go, my dear
and whatever is done by only me
is your doing, my darling
I fear no fate
for you are my fate, my sweet
I want no world,
For, beautiful, you are my world
my true
Here is the deepest secret nobody knows
Here is the root of the root
and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky
of a tree called life
which grows higher than the soul can hope
or mind can hide
And this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart
I carry it in my heart

Happy Mother’s day.

About the Author:

Dianne Orwig is a success coach, motivational speaker, personal trainer, and founder of LivingFit Online™, a program that has helped thousands of men and women completely transform their bodies, and live happier, healthier, more purpose-driven lives though her pioneering, real-world approach to fitness. Visit www.lovelivingfit.com for more details

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But, spoiled rotten, diva-like or not, having spent a good part of my life on the other side of the fence (hardly ever getting anything I wanted,) I highly recommend the alternative and, today, I want to share with you one of the best secrets I know for shifting your life into “get what you want” mode, pronto.

Focus More on WHAT and Less on HOW – When my husband and I met, we knew within days that we would someday get married. Three years later, it still hadn’t happened – but it was not for a lack of trying. It was simply that, in the process of planning around everyone and everything else, we lost sight of what WE wanted.  We spent hours, days, and months trying to map out and coordinate everything. How would we include the kids in the ceremony? Where did our friends fit in? Who would give me away? Where would we have the party afterward?

Dearly Beloved - When it became clear that we would never be able to oblige everyone, we threw in the towel and decided on a private ceremony for two. From that moment on, in what seemed like an almost magical sequence of events, everything began to fall into perfect order. A few weeks later we were married in an elegant ceremony, held in an intimate chapel, aboard a beautiful ship, with our original list of family and friends in attendance, white gown, champagne toast and all.  In other words, the minute we let go of all the nitty-gritty details of how and focused all of our attention on what we wanted, everything happened beautifully and effortlessly.

The Power of Desire - Now, I am not implying, of course, that planning isn’t an important element of getting what you want, but when you find yourself longing for something that is slow to arrive or it feels as though it will never happen, it might be a good idea to examine where you are placing the majority of your attention.  Is your main focus on the vision of what you want and how amazing it will feel when it is finally yours, or is your mind constantly aimed at all of the ”Point-A-To-Point-B” mechanics of getting there? As counter intuitive as it might seem, shifting your focus off “how” and placing it squarely on “what” you want has a powerful way of putting you on the expressway to your heart’s desire.

If there is something you really want, but it seems to be taking forever to show up in your life, try taking about 10 minutes a day to sit quietly by yourself, without any distractions, and imagine the moment you are waiting for. Feel the excitement of getting what you want, imagine what it looks like, sounds like, smells like, and tastes like. Try your best to avoid any resistant thoughts of “but this has to happen first… then this… then this…” Try, instead, to simply experience the joy of that moment- as though you are merely recalling a wonderful memory that has already occurred.  Get back to what you want, forget about how it will arrive (if only for awhile,) and you will be amazed at how quickly it will arrive.

About the Author:

Dianne Orwig is a life coach, motivational speaker, personal trainer, and founder of LivingFit Online™, a program that has helped thousands of men and women completely transform their bodies, and live happier, healthier, more purpose-driven lives though her pioneering, real-world approach to fitness. Visit www.lovelivingfit.com for more details

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